Hey Babe, What's Your Sign?
Flirting Styles Are Tied to Relationship Success
We all have different ways of showing we're interested: some girls play coy, others wear their hearts on their sleeves, while others don't wear much at all. But regardless of your style, it's good to know how you flirt, since according to a new study, some methods are apparently more likely to lead to positive romantic outcomes.
Jeffrey Hall, assistant professor of communication studies at the University of Kansas, examined the flirting styles of more than 5,100 dating adults and identified five styles of flirts: physical, traditional, polite, sincere and playful. Sounds a little Cosmo quiz-ish to us, but who isn't just a little curious how science defines each type? Here's what Hall found:
-Physical flirts express sexual interest in a potential partner. They often develop relationships quickly, have more sexual chemistry with their partners and have a greater emotional connection. Read: Sid and Nancy.
-Traditional flirts think the guy should make the first move. Women with this style are more likely to report trouble getting men's attention and less likely to flirt or be flattered by flirting. They tend to be introverted and prefer a more intimate dating scene. Read: Charlotte York.
-Polite flirts exhibit proper manners and nonsexual communication. They're less likely to approach potential partners and aren't flattered by flirting, but do tend to have meaningful relationships. Read: Frasier.
-Sincere flirts communicate sincere interest (or let all their cards show as a dating strategist might say). Women score higher on this style, but guys do it too. Their relationships, which involve strong emotional connections and sexual chemistry, are typically meaningful. So yeah, stop playing games! Unless, it's Scrabble...
-Playful flirts often have little interest in a long-term romance, but find flirting a fun self-esteem boost. They're less likely to have important and meaningful relationships. Read: Paris Hilton or any NBA Player.
Hall found little difference between men and women for each flirting style. He emphasized how understanding your flirting style can impact a relationship's chance at success: "Knowing something about the way you communicate attraction says something about challenges you might have had in your past dating life. Hopefully, this awareness can help people avoid those mistakes and succeed in courtship."
While there's really no golden rule for attracting a mate, one thing we all need to keep in mind is to never be the kind of flirt that mentions "my three cats" or "porcelain doll collection." Got it? Good.
University of Kansas (2010, November 1). Self-awareness can help people navigate rocky seas of relationships. EurekAlert! Retrieved from: http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2010-11/uok-sac102910.php