There's still some debate over whether or not the G-spot exists. A study appearing in the Journal of Sexual Medicine earlier this year suggested that there's no genetic basis for the G-spot; rather, environmental or psychological factors lead a woman to believe she has one. But the study was flawed, with its lead author admitting that the researchers did not physically examine the participants and simply gave them a survey that didn't even pose its questions appropriately.
There are many studies, however, that show that the G-spot does exist, and it's commonly accepted among sex experts that it does.
The G-spot is a nub of erectile tissue that is generally located a couple of inches beyond the vaginal opening, and felt through your front vaginal wall (think belly button side, rather than the back of your body). The exact location can vary among women. While more research needs to be conducted, the G-spot could be a specific structure (like the female prostate or innermost portions of the clitoris), or merely related to these and other sensitive areas that are in close proximity.
It may take a bit of practice, but don't fret if you haven't found yours yet! Here are some tips for finding it: First, you'll want to search for it when you're aroused, as only then does the spot of erectile tissue swell and become noticeable. It's far up enough that it can be very difficult to find on yourself unless you have very long fingers and a very short vagina. But it's generally possible. When you're turned on, add water-based lube to the tips of your middle and index fingers (just be sure the edges of your nails are smooth so you don't scratch your delicate vaginal tissue). Then, lie down on your back, spread your legs and bend your knees. With your palm facing up, slowly slide your fingers inside your vaginal opening along the front wall, up toward your cervix. Taking note of the surface, you'll likely notice a patch of engorged tissue. If you feel something smooth like the tip of your nose, you missed your mark and found your cervix (the lower part of your uterus), so back up a bit.
Focusing on this "swollen" area, the most common methods of stimulation are to move your fingers in a "come hither" motion, getting into a rhythmic pattern, and experimenting with various amounts of pressure. You can also get creative: Try moving your fingers side-to-side, repeatedly tracing the infinity symbol, or using a toy designed for the G-spot (like the Ocean Vibrator or the Rose G-Spotter). Try this on your own at least once during a solo session. Then you can ask your partner to follow these steps while you lie back and enjoy. For some women, this works best as it allows them to focus on the potential feel-good sensations, rather than having to do all the exploration themselves.
For some women, initial G-spot stimulation can lead to a need-to-pee feeling. If you're worried that you may actually urinate, you can run to the bathroom and relieve your bladder to put it out of your mind. Or, if you continue with the stimulation, the sensation will likely subside or can potentially lead to "female ejaculation"--a dribble to a gush of fluid from the urethra that's not urine--with or without an orgasm.
Once you've identified your G-spot and know what feelings to expect, you can make moves that stimulate it during sex--particularly when you're on top, or when doing the deed doggie-style. While many women claim that the G-spot is a moan zone, not every woman feels the same way. So, if after going on this pleasure mission you find that you still haven't found what you're looking for, know your body is a wonderland; there are plenty of other erogenous places and sensations to discover.
Want to learn more? If so, check out The G-spot: And Other Discoveries about Human Sexuality
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