I met a guy about 3 weeks ago. It seems as if we are dating, but we haven't talked about it. Is it appropriate to bring it up?

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Dr. Carole Altman, PhD (Sex Therapist) answered (11/4/2012)

He calls you, you meet him, you go somewhere, you see each other, you enjoy each other, that's it. say nothing, ask nothing, enjoy what you have. Giving it a label doesn't change it at all, what is it that 'dating' is different than what you
are doing now? I am confused about your question and especially why you asked it? Stay in the moment, enjoy it and let go of your need for labels and reassurances, the main question is - are you having fun? Is he good to you, respectful, kind, attentive? Do you enjoy doing things together, being with him, etc. that is what is important, not a label.
Carole Altman, Ph.D.

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Dr. Amy Johnson (Master Certified Life Coach) answered (11/26/2012)

I like Carole's answer. I also say that if you really want to talk about your label or status for some reason, just talk about it. What's the fear in discussing it?

It sounds like maybe you're looking for some relationship rule to follow, like don't talk about X until after a month, or don't do Y until 2 weeks in. Rules like that were invented by someone who felt really insecure in their relationship and needed something concrete and external to grab onto. Those kind of rules have nothing to do with YOU or YOUR relationship, so don't follow them. Do what feels right in your particular case. If you want to have that talk, have it. No big deal, right?